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What is Bird’s Eye View? 

Bird’s Eye View is an experience that entails self discovery, self acceptance, and personal growth through writing and travel.

5 words that Bird’s Eye View Embodies

  • Vulnerability
  • Refreshment
  • Adventure
  • Exploration
  • Acceptance

What do I write about?

  • Self Acceptance (the topic and methods to strengthen our sense of self compassion)
  • How travel can lead to healing and growth
  • My travel adventures and how they have nourished my soul
  • Methods to work through personal struggles and push our way to new opportunities and higher standards for ourselves

My Mission


I want to positively effect people with talents that I have kept hidden and be open with what’s in my mind and soul, both light and dark.

I’m passionate about writing and travel, so I wanted to create a platform that I can share my love for both with all of you.


I named my blog Bird’s Eye View because I take comfort in knowing that there is always a higher power taking care of us from above as we achieve great things and go through struggles.

We should use our wings to explore new places and people, no matter what personal struggles we are facing at the moment.


I hope that by being vulnerable with my weaknesses, strengths, thoughts, and fears that I can connect with you on a raw human level and maybe even offer hope and encouragement.

I will share some of my inner thoughts, greatest travel experiences, and guidance on how to live fully even with the day to day struggles we battle.


When do I post? 

I post once every 2 weeks (every other Saturday). You can subscribe to my website to receive notifications for posts by entering your email (scroll to the bottom of this page and you will find the subscription box) or if you have a WordPress account already, just click the follow button.

Be sure to follow my Instagram account  (@beccarod.blog ) and my Facebook account (Becca’s Blog) for beautiful pictures, sneak peeks of upcoming posts, and the lastest news of Bird’s Eye View!

Thank you so very much your your interest and your support! You are always welcome here at Bird’s Eye View.

Life Cycle

As humans, we are constantly moving in and out of phases of growth and renewal. Just like plants, we emerge from a single seed; the birth of of an idea, an identity, an opportunity, a relationship, a challenge. Throughout each cycle, we grow, we thrive, we wilt, and sometimes we die.

But just as sure as the sun comes up every morning, we will plant a new seed and experience another gorgeous life cycle within ourselves.

It is imperative that we wrap ourselves in the warmest embrace so that we are filled with comfort and compassion as we maneuver through the joys and challenges of each cycle.

Battling Burnout

A release in pressure to subside the seemingly inevitable, yet utterly dramatic, fall of self is what is needed from time to time. To push or not to push is the million dollar question that I believe most people choose incorrectly a majority of the time, including myself.

If you choose to push through, you will go down either one of two routes:

  1. Endure discomfort to ultimately reach a more durable version of yourself, one that is more physically and emotionally fit to experience life
  2. Continue to work on an empty tank, thus damaging your physical and mental parts and pieces, and move your way towards utter exhaustion.

The human body is a funny thing. You would think that exhaustion is purely physical and the worst that could happen is your body shuts down. I wish that were the case. There’s an inverse relationship between your physical state and mental state when dealing with exhaustion. Your body slowly loses power as your mind runs itself into the ground.

The aspect of burnout that drives your body to Do No Disturb mode doesn’t sound like a bad deal, but the real fun begins when you throw in the emotional fatigue. While your body slumbers, your mind continues to race. Since your mind doesn’t have your physical body to carry out its plans, ideas, and worries, all of that energy gets channeled into your emotions. Anger becomes more intense, feelings become more sensitive, and your threshold for managing stress and frustration dramatically decreases. While your mind is blank and numb from being overworked, your emotions are on full rampage. This is when excessive crying, feelings of overwhelm and hopelessness, and complete apathy sets in.

The inverse relationship between the physical and emotional systems during burnout is contradicting and counteractive.

That is why we must take intentional steps to consistently completing the cycle of stress, thus avoiding this destructive state of being. It is vital in keeping us at or near a healthy baseline of wellbeing.

It’s not the load that breaks us down, it is the way we carry it.

Lou Holtz

In other words, it is not the actual stressor (ie. work, relationships, kids) that is taking a toll on our health and wellbeing, it is the way we are engaging with the stress that the stressor has caused. We can choose to intentionally receive and work through stress in a healthy and productive way, even when the stressor is still present in our life.

The stressor itself has no power over you and you have no power over it. What you do have power over is your own reactions/self narratives and how you engage/alter your environment.

No matter how proactive we are, the dreadful feelings of stress (both physical and emotional) will always come. That is when we must accept it and work through it by “completing the cycle”. In an awesome book I’m reading, “Come as You Are”, by Emily Nagoski, she explains that most of us live in a constant state of fight, flight, or freeze. This is because our bodies are evolutionized to respond to perceived threats in these ways, but rather than fearing being attacked by wild animals, we are now fearing deadlines, other people’s opinions, and other day to day stressors. While this biological mechanism is useful at times, it can be destructive when our bodies remain in this tense state long after the threat is gone. When you come home from work, the grip of the workload, relationships with colleges, and fear of failure can keep you tied in stress and tension. This can have negative short and long-term effects on health and well being.

The good news is Emily Nagoski has uncovered 7 ways we can unlock ourselves from this state of defense.

  1. Physical Activity: The movement is similar to that of an animal shaking after being in shock from experiencing a near death situation. The motion brings us back to a sense of security and normalcy.
  2. Breathing: The regulation of the nervous system that brings us back to ourselves. Meditation is my favorite thing ever.
  3. Positive social interaction: That refreshing sense that all is well in the world when we can connect with other human beings.
  4. Laughter: The deep, body-shaking type of laughter that fills your body with content
  5. Creative self expression: The reminder that we can unlock different parts of our brain to engage with alternate dimensions of reality
  6. Affection: The reassuringly warm sense of security that only physical touch can offer
  7. Crying: A release of pressure, like water being set free from a mistakenly indestructible dam.

If we engage in these practices religiously, our subconscious mind will fall into a state of ease and calm, knowing that even when faced with stress, we can and will quickly release the tension and flow back into a state of homeostasis. A restful and pleasant baseline of self is what I am striving for, even with my changing life and environment. It may be a lofty goal, but I believe it is one worth working towards.

Thanks for reading

Becca

Clarity


When you look at a person, you may not be able to tell if they are struggling just based off of their appearance. But if you look closely, you can see it in their eyes. There’s a glaze coating their gaze that signals conflict within. You can see a storm in their eyes. Those who are internally free from their own self criticism and allow grace to soften the grip of worry have a certain brightness in their eyes… one that offers engagement and connection with anyone they come across. They have the mental space to offer their attention to others because they are not consumed with their own storm within. It is reassuring to know that even in the midst of grey clouds, when all you are able to see is the rain falling and the sky darkening, you are only a short distance away from a clear sky. Maybe all you need is a day, a call, a moment of self compassion, or an opportunity to understand something better to realize that your storm wasn’t as powerful as you initially thought. I’ve learned that things are never as bad or complicated as they seem in the moment. God is watching from above, smiling as you step closer and closer to your clear sky. It’s a choice you can make everyday… to walk around with clarity in your eyes, compassion in your smile, and peace within. It is easier said than done.. but it’s worth striving for.

Let me take a minute…

I would like to take a minute to acknowledge what a Rock Star I am.

I don’t usually brag about myself, but I realized something recently that I definitely think is worth sharing; my mental health and personal relationship with myself has improved SO MUCH in the past 2 years. To some people, getting promoted or receiving an award is what they consider an achievement, but for me and my own personal journey, this is a grand triumph worthy of celebration.

It’s funny how this aha moment emerged from circumstances that seem to prove the opposite. I was beginning to doubt myself in these recent months and all the progress I have made because big life transitions and the pandemic have really shaken me to my core. They are forcing me to face age old challenges within myself that have risen to the surface. This is what is happening to each and everyone of us in some form I believe. Traces of the old anxiety attacks and self destructive thoughts have snuck back up and have caused me to question my growth… but today as I read an old post of mine, Break the Cycle, from two years ago, I realized that I have come SO FAR since that time of my life. My eyes filled with tears as I read the experiences of my younger self. I’ve worked hard ever since then to heal my mind and live a healthier lifestyle. Now, just several years later, I am seeing the fruits of that labor.

I have found ease because my mind is healthy. I let God handle my troubles now and try to trust His guidance. I challenge my negative thoughts and change them to positive ones that make me feel good. Iv’e made sustainable changes to my daily habits that have made every day life more enjoyable. I love myself so much more now. I talk to myself so kindly and care gently for my wounds if an stray wave of destructive anxiety swings through… which is way less often. I realize how strong and capable I am. Like I said, I am a Rock Star.

My mind is overall a positive and nurturing place. THIS IS AWESOME NEWS EVERYBODY! It has been hard work, but it has been worth it.

It makes me so proud to say that I can enjoy my days and be present with those I love way more because I am constantly keeping my thoughts in check and making sure I am showing myself love in all types of ways; meditation, positive affirmations, yoga, exercise, dancing, quality time with good people, and journaling. All of these techniques keep my mind filled with light.

Sometimes I slip back into the darkness, but I can get up and find my way back to the light so much easier now. This is something I could not say 2 years ago, so it fills me with pride that I have reached this place. A really great friend of mine told me this analogy a couple days ago when I had slid down to a low place and it filled me with peace and hope; “pretend you’re coloring a picture. You start from the the bottom and work your way up, but sometimes you have to go back down to fill in spots you missed. This doesn’t take away from all that you already colored, that all still counts. It’s okay to need to go back down to work on parts of yourself that still need attention. It doesn’t take away from all of your progress.”

Every one of us are in the process of growth, and I have found that if you put time and energy into your own well being and health, life becomes joyful. Meaningful. Fun. Silly. Worth it. Even when we feel like we are right back in the same old spot we have been trying to get out of, it is important to realize that all of the progress we have made is still something to be celebrated and we should be patient with the parts of ourselves that still need work.

What I want you to take from this post is CELEBRATE YOURSELF! Your progress, your strength, your growth! Because it’s there, all you have to do is look.

BLACK LIVES MATTER

To put it in another way, pain is God’s megaphone to rouse a deaf world. Why must it be pain? Why can’t he rouse us more gently, with violins or laughter? Because the dream from which we must be wakened, is the dream that is all well.

William Nicholson

You have been killed, harassed, and cheated for the color of your skin, for the roots of your descent, and for the core of your being. What one so committed to destructive ignorance refuses to see is the light in your smile, the soul in your eyes, and the depth of your mind. How absurd it is that you are subjected to lifelong suffering so that another can live in convenience. Oh how difficult it to dehumanize you when the warmth of your flesh can be felt and the beating of your heart can be heard. A heart that beats for those you love, dreams you long for, and peace you crave. Lift your gaze and look into the eyes of those who oppress you. Let them sit in the discomfort of what they have done, or have failed to stop. It goes against human nature to remain callused after realizing the depth of pain inflicted on a fellow human being. One of their own. Whether we look like each other or not, we are all one collective breath. If one of us stops breathing, we all stop breathing.

Its time for you to receive better in this one life you are given. Walk the streets for justice, hold up signs for peace, and let your voice be heard for respect. Nothing is too much if it means you are not robbed of the basic respect and love you deserve. The chaos will increase and the screams will amplify so that your children do not grow up with a target on their back. You are given this one lifetime. It is already a tragedy that so many black people have lived and died in a society that disregards their dignity and strips away their prosperity, but maybe if the anger and pain you feel is channeled into creation of the new, not all will be lost. If pain is what is necessary to pave a way for your life to be valued, so be it. May this society awaken.

Happy Mother’s Day

Dear Momma,

Who knew it was possible for someone to be so kind, selfless, supportive, and generous.

I do not think my words can do justice to illustrating the true depth of your love because honestly I can’t fully comprehend it myself. It’s just too massive and seems to possess infinite dimensions. Maybe these little observations of you will offer a tiny glance into the incredible mother and person you are.

  • You always lay a comfy blanket on anyone who sits on our couch because you want us to feel warm and welcome.
  • You surprise me with home made ice cream sundaes just because.
  • You drop everything and drive up to San Marcos when I need you with me.
  • You try to offer me anything and everything of yours (shirts, speaker, gift cards) if I show the slightest interest in them because you are just so generous.
  • You never tire of letting me cry and vent, and you don’t ever question my shifting moods or indecisiveness.
  • You created HALO, a club that gives boys and girls of Latino heritage a place to feel safe and proud of themselves.
  • You do ANYTHING you can to help someone in need.

This is probably 1/1000th of all the things you do that sets you apart from the rest in my eyes, but as I think of more I can update this post until I reach 100, 1000, maybe even 10,000 of your quirky and loving habits to this list.

I’m not too sure how I scored a mom like you.. and often times I feel guilty because I can’t give you as much as you have given me. I will still try though, even though you have made that a tough challenge with all the selfless Iove you’ve poured into Jack and I the past 22 years.

Just know you’re loved so deeply and my life and this world is so much better with you in it.

Truth

The enemy is not me. The enemy is not him. There is no enemy. Just simply an immovable Truth. It just is what it is. Something to respect and accept.

The enemy is not me. The enemy is not our past selves and all that we did or didn’t do. There is no enemy. Just simply a natural Truth. It just is what it is. Something we have known, but chose not to welcome.

The Truth is beautiful, however sad it can seem. It is patient and will linger until we are ready to embrace it. Just like you and me, the Truth deserves to be loved and accepted just as it is.

You Don’t Need Permission

As I sit in my backyard, not really knowing what day it is or how long we as a society have had to adapt to our new reality, I secretly feel grateful for what this time has brought me. When I say secretly, I don’t mean I am hiding these feelings of gratitude from others, but more from myself. My soul has had to reap the life-giving benefits of this shut down of society in private, while my conscious mind plays an endless loop of “normal and appropriate” thoughts such as:

  • “I don’t deserve this rest, I haven’t done anything to be tired.”
  • “There are people risking their lives helping others and I am bored at home.” and
  • “I need to take advantage of this time to do EVERYTHING I haven’t had the time for for the past 20 years.”

Meditation has been a gift that not only keeps my anxious mind and body at bay, but also gives me the opportunity to step into a reality, even if its just for 10 minutes, that’s full of self-compassion rather than self-criticism, clarity rather than fog, and freedom rather than restraint. I share this because today in my daily morning meditation (something I haven’t done consistently until this quarantine began), I realized that giving yourself permission to rest and replenish during this time is not only okay, its beneficial to society as a whole.

Everyone feels like they need permission. To rest, to live in a state of well-being, to be an emotionally healthy human being.

The narrative of our society is “I can focus on my mental, emotional, physical well-being… as long as it doesn’t get in the way of work or school.”

The wake up call we all need: YOU have to give yourself permission to care for yourself, heal yourself, and accept yourself.

We are in a really strange circumstance in which SOCIETY has stopped and said “Hey (insert name here), take a breather and recuperate from the past several decades of constant work, self-criticism, and stress you’ve suffered.” And yet we are still hesitant to accept that offer, even though this (hopefully) is a once in a lifetime opportunity. I’m not sure if society is ever going to give us this chance again, and honestly we don’t need everything in the world to stop to have a valid reason to take care of ourselves.

My wish for you is to wake up every morning, whether you know what day of the week it is or not, and believe deep down you are worthy of rest. You don’t have to earn it. You are worthy of healing the wounds within your heart. You don’t need permission. You are worthy of experiencing joy that is not tied to circumstance. It’s just a matter of accepting the offer that is already yours.

Just Speak

Write assertively or passively.

All that matters is you write.

Speak fiercely or calmly.

All that matters is you speak.

Sing songs of joy or songs of melancholy.

All that matters is you sing.

No matter the form of your communication, that which you have to share is valuable. It may pack a punch or gently ease a burden.

Loud and firm doesn’t equate to strength, nor does quiet and soft equate to weakness. In whatever form you take, with whatever you are going through, speak truth. Your truth. A shaky whisper can open up the floodgates to growth and healing just as effectively as screaming at the top of your lungs.

I think we all have a little bit of both within us. Ferocity and gentleness. Intensity and quietude. Its important to remember that confidence and insecurity are not tied to specific qualities. A loud, assertive man can be in a state of crippling insecurity while a seemingly meek and quiet man stands in unwavering self confidence. You can flip the men in this situation and it could easily be just as true. The important thing to note is that the way we feel about ourselves is a state of mind, not a permanent sentence. This gives us the freedom to choose a practice of self acceptance or self criticism, which in turn molds a state of insecurity or confidence that we live in.

It doesn’t matter what we say or how we say it. All that matters is that it is said. You never know who may benefit from your honesty. Standing in truth and taking steps toward that truth, no matter how tiny, can build the lasting self confidence that trusting yourself brings.

Sweet Girl pt. 2

You lay awake in bed, stricken with the suffocating sense that you need to be doing more, executing more ideas, achieving greater things. An endless pressure lingers above your head, a ticking clock continuously reminding you that you don’t have all day.

Rest, sweet girl. Place your heavy burdens at the feet of someone, something much greater. The body isn’t meant to withstand that type of strain; it is meant to receive guidance and create meaningful work that is sourced from abundance, not lack.

Deadlines, cutthroat competition, and once in a lifetime shots drain the overflowing fountain that is your creativity and capability.

Trust that you will do the life-giving work that heals others just as much as it heals yourself, in your own time and own way. Look away from the endless stream of successes with your comparing eyes, and choose to believe that all the desirable things things you see is reflecting back what is being cultivated within yourself.

Your kindness, determination, empathy, resourcefulness, persistence, and creativity is a batch of ingredients that are slowly but surely cooking up something that this world has never seen but will benefit from in ways much greater than you will ever be able to fully understand. Trust that the magnitude of your pure intentions is enough to attract the soul-fulfilling work you long for.